There’s a kind of surrender that doesn’t come easily — not because we don’t love God, but because the “yes” He asks of us stretches deeper than we expected. It’s one thing to say yes to a calling; it’s another to keep saying yes when the path gets hard.
Maybe you’ve been there — when clarity is met with resistance, when ministry feels more like pouring out than being filled, when you question whether you misheard the call entirely.
I’ve been there too.
There’s grace in the struggle. Holiness doesn’t always look like perfect peace — sometimes it looks like perseverance in the fog.
When Discernment Doesn’t Feel Clear
We often think discernment is about hearing God clearly, then stepping confidently forward. But what happens when we did hear clearly — and what followed didn’t feel like peace?
The truth is, discernment is rarely one moment. It’s a series of moments. Listening, wrestling, surrendering again. Learning to trust that even when the road curves unexpectedly, God’s call hasn’t disappeared.
Saying Yes Doesn’t Mean It’s Easy
If we say yes to something difficult, we assume God will reward us with clarity or confirmation. But often the reward is hidden. The grace doesn’t always feel like grace.
Jesus didn’t skip to the Cross. Gethsemane was real. And if Christ asked the Father to take the cup away — and still said yes — we shouldn’t be surprised when our own vocations include similar moments.
Sometimes, faithfulness looks like waking up and choosing again. To be present. To show up. To serve when no one sees. To trust when no one understands.
A Word for Those Who Are Tired
If you’re walking through ministry or marriage or discernment with a weary heart, know this: it’s okay to admit that it’s hard. God isn’t asking you to fake joy. He’s inviting you to trust Him with your whole heart — even the parts that want to run.
You’re not weak for struggling. You’re human. And your struggle may be the very space where He’s drawing near.
If You Need to Talk
God may be inviting you to speak with someone who can listen — not to fix you, but to walk with you.
If you’re discerning your next step — or learning how to live more fully into your “yes” — I’d be honored to walk with you.
